Divorce
We are not lawyers. We are project managers. We are a team of experts who have helped hundreds of women not only overcome the legal challenges of high-net-worth divorce (such as asset deprivation and legal threats), but the practical, financial, and emotional challenges that come with it. We have worked with quite a few high-net-worth clients getting divorced to manage their assets and give them peace of mind.
This page gives you an overview of what we do. To get the full story, watch the webinar and book a call to talk with us.
For divorcing moms
Divorcing moms usually need support in the legal process, organization, and project management. Professional moms may need all the help they can get just to get through the week. Our goal is to help you get the best outcome possible, including your fair share of the assets, while spending more quality time with your kids.
For divorcing dads
Divorcing dads usually need more help with kids, housing, domestic issues, and organization. Dads may carry a lot of other responsibilities, or they may just need to get better at managing kids and schedules. They often need help catching all the little things they normally do but no longer have time for.
Dads, we made a webinar just for you.
What we do
We are your divorce project managers. We handle all the details, scrutinize all the documents, get second opinions, hire investigators or specialists, and take charge of executing the process. We keep you informed every step of the way and work with you to make sure nothing gets dropped.
We are your meta-advisors. We help you decide which lawyers to use and how to use them. We help you find the other lawyers, consultants, and resources you need to maximize your results. Most lawyers mean well, but they are busy people with many clients, and they often miss small things that turn out to matter to you later.
We advocate collaborative divorce when possible. A collaborative divorce is a formal process in which both parties and their lawyers agree not to use the courts, or threaten to use them. It is not possible in every case, but you should try to convince your spouse of the benefits, especially for the children.
We build your divorce dashboard. We use Notion to create one place where all your documents, resources, timelines, schedules, notes, and agreements live. It lets us share with others easily and keeps everything on track.
We help you prepare. There are a lot of details to manage. We work with you to chase everything down and pull it into one cohesive package.
We script your time with your spouse. Agree on new patterns of interaction. You do not want the old patterns repeating themselves. You want your kids to see both parents getting along and handling the divorce well.
We help you spend more time with your kids. Children need more attention during a divorce, not less. Sending them to a counselor or psychologist is often counterproductive; their needs are personal, and they do not express them well. Give them your attention, and create special memories that go beyond the routine. The more special things you do together, the more they will remember.
We set goals for you and your kids to achieve together. Goals matter for kids. They get kids off their phones and into action, preparing for a big day, a big presentation, or a big event. Pick a big goal together, like a trip, a climb, or an event, and start a training program months ahead. Get them working toward something big, so they remember the project, not the divorce.
We build a post-divorce family structure that works. Kids need continuity. They will see both parents often, and they need to see mom and dad getting along. This does not happen by accident. It takes planning and the same commitment you bring to a collaborative divorce. Written agreements help, along with an integrated schedule and clear processes.
Difficult divorces
Some divorces are contested rather than collaborative, simply because one party refuses to collaborate. There is no magic recipe for getting through it, but there are people who can help, and being prepared is half the battle. We will work with you to manage this disruptive process and make things as smooth as possible for the children. These resources may help:
- Farzad Law’s guide to high-net-worth divorces gives you an overview, and they offer a free consultation session to answer your questions.
- Gray divorces (parties over 50) are on the rise in the US. Some things to watch out for.
- An overview of high-net-worth separation and divorce by Lisa Gelman. This is for couples in Canada, but it is a good overview.
- Emma Johnson’s resources for wealthy moms. There is a lot on this site.
Online resources
- Our Happy Divorce is a book and a set of resources for turning divorce into a positive experience for everyone.
- It’s Over Easy is an online platform that guides couples through an uncontested, no-lawyers process of working everything out.
- Divorce.com offers online tools, lawyers, and coaches to make your divorce as smooth as possible.
- Talking to Children About Divorce, by Jean McBride.
- Nothing Says a Good Day like a Divorce, if you Prepare for it!, by Helen M. Dukhan.
- The Good Divorce, by Constance Ahrons.
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? Kate Anthony has a full toolkit for making difficult decisions about love and family. She also runs the Divorce Survival Guide podcast.
Step-parenting
- Stepmom magazine. A monthly subscription gets you the magazine plus membership in their online stepmom community.
Divorce coaches
- Christina McGhee has an informative website and a 20-page resource guide to help you put things in perspective.
- Sonia Limbada is our partner in working with clients. She has over 20 years of experience in family law and divorce coaching. She is amazing. Visit her website, or contact us and we will all get on a call together.